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How are you guys doing? I haven't posted anything in a while. I was on a journey, figuratively speaking. I was learning things... Useful things that I could pass along to you.
Today we'll talk about an enemy. An enemy we all have in common. A deadly opponent. It's name is Conflict. (I know. I know. I've never fought anyone with such a lame name either.) I'm not talking about the type of conflict you get into with your Internet provider when your connection sucks more than it usually does. No. I'm talking about a type of conflict that happens deep within, then reflects very negatively on the outside. It can affect both your mental and physical health, your social life, and everything else. It makes you feel angry, frustrated, unhappy, insecure, bored, etc.
Conflict happens when you resist the course of something either as strong as your will, or stronger than it. We tend to impose our will to everything. Nature, our bosses, the ones we love, events, life. We set expectations, then get frustrated when what we wanted doesn't happen. That doesn't mean having expectations is wrong. No. Just bear with me. I'll explain.
Life is an aggressive cycle. We can't even pretend to complain about it. We are part of it. In antagonism, the strong fights back, and the stronger wins. You can't hope to attack the strong and not be vigorously fought or even defeated. That's usually when all the hard feelings set in.
Now, there's a trick to it. The stronger wins, that much is true... But how strong are we? It is not our outside looks that determine our will power. It is something within. Therefore, it can only be noticed through our accomplishments. What if I told You that your will power is limitless? What if I told you that the only reason you fail in your conflicts is because you fail to gage and evaluate the power of the enemy? You gamble with your victory when you engage in a fight without a plan, and you need to know who you're up against if you want to come up with a successful plan.
We earned our position at the top of the food chain because we are smart. Human intelligence and consciousness beat muscles, fangs, and claws. We fail to use our brains in some areas of our lives, though. We lack what some would call "emotional intelligence"
We worry about things we can't (and shouldn't) change, we take things personal, and more. What I am trying to tell you today is: go with the flow.
I learned to think in concepts rather than words. That helps when used right. I sometimes "step out" of the picture to take a good neutral look at what's going on. I look at myself, my actions and reactions, and I try to sort and address the things I do out of emotions. Some are good, others... Not that good.
We feel bad when we resist the flow of events. We refuse, we fight, we scream, we cry, we break down. That won't work. It's like fighting a shark with your bare hands. You are at the top of the food chain because of your intelligence, not your physical strength.
We are surrounded by acting forces that we can't see. They make things happen, and you contribute to their power. When things don't go the way you want them to, getting mad or sad won't help. You need to fight those forces like you'd fight a shark. Fight smart.
First, you need to accept what's going on. Just like you accept and acknowledge that the shark swimming in circles around your life-boat is stronger than you. Not to mention that it's in its element. Water. You don't have gills now, do you? Acceptance is a weapon. It helps us think accurately. Once we accept our condition and understand our situation, we are likely to come up with the most convenient action plan. Denial can only lead us to our destruction.
Until next time.
